John Gray, Ph.D., (Men Are From Mars…)
“Kathlyn and Gay Hendricks are masters of the art of
Don't worry if you're a bit skeptical. It's a bold claim, and coming
from most people, I probably wouldn't believe it either. But I've
got over 20,000 reasons to be confident about my claim that you can
create the relationship of your dreams. That's how many people we've
helped do it. If you're willing to invest a few moments of your time
to find out if I'm for real, I promise you won't regret the time
we spend together.
“Most relationship programs I’ve seen are like re-arranging the
deck chairs on the Titanic---maybe useful for a while, but they
don’t get at the root of the problem. The Hendricks program is
like taking a helicopter off the deck of the Titanic. It takes
you into a completely new zone of possibility.” Eddie Erlandson,
First, let me ask you to accept, forgive and love yourself for whatever
relationship pains you’ve experienced in the past. If you’re like
me, you didn’t get much if any training, coaching or mentoring in
how to create and nurture a close relationship.
• How much did your parents teach you about
building a loving, intimate relationship?
• How much training or education in relationship building
did you get in elementary, junior high, or high school?
• How much
did you learn in college or graduate school?
For most of us, the answer ranges from ‘very little’ to ‘none.’
one reason why so many people have problems finding, creating, and
maintaining good solid relationships. But, it doesn't have to be
My wife, Katie, and I have created The Relationship Solution just
for you. It's the result of nearly 25 years of highly successful
work with tens of thousands of singles and couples wanting to find
the solution to lasting love.
The Relationship Solution is not just another self-help program full
of empty promises and feel-good platitudes. Rather, it's a comprehensive
multi-part learning experience that reveals everything you need to
know to find, create, and maintain a truly joyful relationship.
Consider it your basic, secondary, and graduate level
education in relationships. (Half the people who buy the program
are therapists, coaches and business professionals who use the skills
both in their own lives and in their practices.)
When you take advantage of The Relationship Solution...
find out which of the deadliest intimacy-destroying mistakes you're
making, and how to avoid them. Everyone makes mistakes, but until
you know what they are, you're bound to keep making the same ones
over and over.
discover what you need to find in an ideal partner to create the
perfect relationship for you (everybody's different, here's how to
someone with "the right differences")
finally understand why, when you say one thing, he or she hears something totally different (and how to talk about, even the most difficult,
subjects clearly and concisely without hurting each others feelings)
learn how to eliminate blame – the #1 relationship-destroyer – from
all aspects of your lives
discover the specific simple actions that make a monumental difference
in your relationship and level of day-to-day happiness. None of those
actions take longer than 10 seconds, but if you don’t know how to
do them you can string a problem out for 10 years of unhappiness.
The Relationship Solution is actually two programs in one!
is called .
It's the one you should start with if you are currently in a relationship. The
tools and techniques contained in The Love and Intimacy Solution also work for
singles, so we encourage singles to participate in it after they've completed
The Singles Solution.
While you'll get the best results
from The Relationship Solution and The Love and Intimacy Solution
if both you and your partner participate, it's certainly not required.
We've seen some quite dramatic results obtained even when only one
partner begins using the program. Of course, once the "reluctant" partner
sees these incredible results, he or she tends to come on board.
is called . It's designed for those of you who are not currently
in a relationship, but who want to find and create the kind of relationship
you’ve always dreamed about.
The Singles Solution includes some very
powerful tools that help you focus on finding exactly what you want
in a relationship and filter out the less desirable candidates.
the extra tools in The Singles Solution work equally well with couples,
so we encourage couples to take part in it after they've completed
The Love and Intimacy Solution.
When we created The Relationship
Solution, we decided to hold nothing back. Our goal was to pour everything
into the program we'd learned in more than 25 years of working with
tens of thousands of people. In fact, we were originally going to
design it as a complete training system for relationship therapists
and counselors. We had already trained more than a thousand professionals
in the skills, and in the process we had discovered that meangingful
relationship training is almost never given in graduate schools and
One day, not long after talking to the studio audience
on Oprah's show and watching how positively they reacted to our ideas,
we realized that nobody had ever made these powerful, yet easily-mastered
concepts available to people in general. That's when we decided to
change the way people learn about successful relationships. The Relationship
Solution is the result.
When you learn what’s in The Relationship
Solution, you'll feel more love, more creativity and more harmony
in your close relationships than you've dreamed possible.We guarantee
it. How can I offer such a "no-questions-asked" guarantee?
The answer is simple, and it’s not just because Katie and I have
been helping people create miraculous breakthroughs in thousands
of relationships for over 25 years. It’s really because we've been
using the exact same relationship tools and concepts in our own marriage.
Everything in the program has been kitchen-and-bedroom-tested
by us---we’re our own best customers. The tools in the program have
helped us through the ups and downs of raising kids, going from being
broke to being wealthy, handling conflicts and you name it. The tools
work, and we know that in our bones. Just to give you one example,
it’s been well over 10 years since either of us has spoken a harsh
or critical word to the other. Can you imagine what it feels like
to go even 10 days without being criticized? Now imagine 10 years
of blissful freedom from negative energy in your close relationship.
That’s the same kind of magic we want you to create
in your relationship life! Before you start thinking we are super-human,
though, let me assure you it wasn't always that way. In my twenties
and early thirties I struggled in one relationship after another.
So did Katie. I felt like a total failure in relationships, especially
when I compared my lack of success in love with my thriving career
as a psychologist, professor and author of several books. In my thirties
I had just about given up on finding true love. Then, in 1979 I had
a big wake-up moment after a painful break-up. In a flash of insight
I suddenly realized that every single relationship problem I'd ever
had boiled down to several simple things I was doing wrong:
didn't know how to make a real commitment.
didn't know how to communicate honestly, especially about my feelings.
didn't know how to solve problems without blaming myself or the
often replayed unconscious patterns from my early life (for example,
I attracted women who were substance abusers and would try to "save" them
from their self-destructive habits.
In my ‘wake-up’ moment I realized that this pattern was based on
the first years of my life, when I must have unconsciously felt
responsible for saving my loving but substance-abusing mother from
trying to kill herself.)
After I had this insight, I made a vow that I would eliminate all
those destructive patterns in the next relationship I got into. Exactly
a month after I made this vow, and just a few days short of my thirty-fifth
birthday, my life took a magnificent turn for the better: I met and
fell in love with Katie. Together, we committed ourselves to creating
a relationship in which:
blamed or criticized.
communicated clearly to each other about all our feelings
made time for being close to each other and for our own individual
The next few years were a rocket-ride of intense learning. We discovered
the Five Secrets we share with you in The Relationship Solution,
and we invented the powerful relationship building tools we'll
show you how to use in the program.
We weren't perfect by any means (and still aren't),
so it took us the better part of three years to create the kind
of relationship we'd originally envisioned. Old habits die hard,
and both of us have a stubborn streak that would get a grip on
us now and then, causing us to dig in our heels for weeks at a
helped was the set of tools we developed. As we learned to use
them, they gave us the power over our old habits. First, we were
able to eliminate blame and criticism. This in itself was remarkable,
because both of us had grown up in extremely critical families.
In the early years of our relationship, we considered it a cause
for celebration if we could get through a whole day without blaming
or criticizing each other. Now, though, it's been years since either
one of us has said anything critical or blameful to the other.
We also gained the ability to communicate clearly, keep our promises
to each other and open the flow of creative energy in both of us.
These tools are the same ones you learn in The Relationship Solution,
the tools that helped us bring the relationship of our dreams into
After showing several hundred couples and singles how to use the
tools, we started teaching our techniques to other therapists.
Soon, it was commonplace for us to have thirty therapists packed
into our office or living room. One night, sitting in front of
the fireplace on a chilly winter evening, we decided to write a
book about everything we'd learned. We felt that the concepts and
tools we'd discovered were so important that they deserved a wider
audience. It took a year or so to write Conscious Loving, and another
year to see it published. Then, something happened that really
changed our lives: the producers from ‘Oprah’ called. A few days
later we flew to Chicago to tape her show. Suddenly we were presenting
the same life-changing tools to ten million people that we'd previously
been sharing with thirty people in our living room. Since that
first Oprah show, we've been around the world over thirty times
teaching people how to create lasting love.
contains three CD's full of the most powerful, relationship
building tools and techniques known to man. Here's a small
sample from the 20 tracks of important information...What
you really need to know about relationships in under 5
minutes...The Five Foundation-Insights...The Five Actions
that create lasting love...The Commitment Builder Tool...The
Emotions Clarifier...The Blame Eliminator...The Creative
Identity Enhancer...The Appreciation Spiral...
|Take a look
at a few of the 18 valuable tracks in Program 2...The Commitment
Clarifier...Introduction to Bodymind Harmonizing...The
Self-Acceptance Secret...Experiencing Your Feelings...Your
Power to Create...The Power of Unconscious Commitments...The
Clarity Process...Absolute Yes's...Absolute No's... Opening
|This 56 page
guide includes the written part of all the exercises and
learning tools contained in this stage of the program.
|This is the
key to making all the changes you want, quickly and easily.
The Relationship Harmonizer (with its use of Holosync technology)
induces alpha level brainwaves which Harvard researcher,
Dr. Herbert Benson called, the relaxation response. Listening
to The Relationship Harmonizer with your partner for 15
minutes a day will create a deep rapport and connection.
If you're listening alone, it will help create an internal
balance that will help you create the relationship you
want. Either way, the benefits are immense.
|All of the Life Coaches and Conscious Relationship coaches certified by The Hendricks Institute begin by learning the concepts and techniques in The Relationship Solution. Coaching is one of the most exciting and rewarding new careers to emerge in recent years. The Hendricks Institute has trained more than 1000 professionals around the world and is the most respected center for training conscious relationship coaches. If you’re seeking to expand your career options, consider adding skills as a Conscious Relationship Coach to your resume.
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you will be, too.
Thousands of people have purchased the program, which consists of a workbook,
6 CDs and a DVD. It’s great, but it’s also a lot of paper and plastic! For a
long time I’ve been concerned about the environmental impact of shipping things
around in the world, the pollution caused by fuel, the plastic and other factors.
Plus, the high cost of fuel is adding huge costs to books, CDs and DVDs. We sold
THE RELATIONSHIP SOLUTION for years for $189, but recently our manufacturer told
us they were going to double the cost of the materials. So, I began looking for
new alternatives, and I have some very good news to report. Working with our
friends at Apple and other technologists, we now can offer a completely new way
to get the program.
—you can get what you want in a couple of minutes
rather than waiting days or weeks for it to be delivered by mail or UPS.
. You don’t have to pay for all the
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getting something that’s good for you.
There are three simple steps:
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We’re very excited about this new publishing
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The cost of the new EarthFriendly Edition is $125, but you can get it during the introductory period for $97. Compare that to the
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This video features Katie showing you how to do one of the most challenging things any growth-oriented person ever needs to learn: To love and accept yourself fully.
The video is deeply experiential: you participate in it interactively as Katie goes through the instructions. Watch it once or a dozen times, as many of our participants do. Each time you'll find something new in it, as you explore deeper and deeper ways of accepting and loving yourself.
Many experts say that the #1 issue underlying many human problems is the inability to love and accept ourselves. Of course, this causes us not to be able to love others fully as well. Start your journey to genuine self-esteem with this brief, life-changing video!
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